Happy Relationships? Happy Self?

You may find it surprising to hear that social isolation is not a factor that is predictive of future bouts of depression. Many people lead rich, fulfilling lives without regularly socializing with others. For the extroverts among us, distance from family and friends makes us feel sad and upset just thinking about it.

Research suggests that it is the quality, not the quantity of relationships that counts. Conflicted or dissatisfying relationships correlate with higher rates of depression. This makes a strong case for working on strengthening our relationships. A couple of ideas for improving relationships:

1. Take some time each day to think about the qualities of your friends and family members you love and appreciate.

2.  Write a note, a text, an email or a phone call letting someone you love know you care.

3.  Find situations to laugh about.

4.  Take opportunities to openly express positive feedback.

5.  Listen and withhold judgment.

Here is a great article from Pysch Central on the correlation of unhappy relationships and depression.

Enjoy,

Cathi Cohen, LCSW, CGP